在《纽约时报》(New York Times)杂志上的一篇文章中，格林曼(Ben Greenman)思考了与父母住在一起的好处。一个明显的好处是：他九岁的儿子会乐疯的。
In an essay in the New York Times magazine this weekend, Ben Greenman contemplates the benefits of living in a two-family house with his parents. One clear plus: His 9-year-old son would be thrilled.
As a juggler, of course, there are a couple of other tantalizing plus sides: Back-up child-care is just a flight of stairs away. Family vacations aren't always monopolized by trips to your in-laws' house. And, as your parents get older and perhaps require some caretaking on your part, proximity makes it simpler to care for them.
Of course, many adults moved out of their parents homes long ago in a quest for independence-and privacy. As one of Mr. Greenman friends asks him: 'Do you want your parents to know every time you have a fight with your wife?'
Still, more parents are moving back in with their kids. I was recently talking to a home builder who mentioned that in-law additions are an increasingly popular component of newly built houses.
It's hard to set boundaries when you're literally living on top of one another, which can complicate the family dynamic.
Nevertheless, Mr. Greenman and his wife have been looking for two-family homes, ruling out places where the master bedrooms are stacked atop each other.
My grandparents shared a two-family house with my aunt (their daughter) and her family in Brooklyn. When I was a kid, their two-family house was a paradise. On visits to stay with my grandparents, I could be indulged with my grandmother's home-cooking and entertained downstairs by my aunt and cousins. Looking back, I think my cousins were lucky to grow-up with their grandparents around. And talking to them now, they all look back to that time fondly. I know the arrangement also made it easier for my aunt to work part-time outside the home.
Readers, do think the benefits of living with your parents or in-laws outweigh the disadvantages? Is it something you'd consider?
2011-04-11 13:25 编辑：kuaileyingyu