No matter great people or normal people, they all have temper. They will get angry if they feel humiliated, which is understandable. But have we thought og whether our over-extreme words will hurt others? For most of the circumstances, people don't have too many conflicts with each other, most of the argues occur just because both sides won't give in.
People all care about their self-respect, especially Chinese. Self-respect is abstract and unpredictable, but is the tinniest standard in Chinese social interactions. When we say respect others, we mean not to hurt others' self-respect. Respect gives people power and honor. It lives among us though we can't see or hear.
The most impolite thing is to disrespect somebody. They might hate you for a lifetime for this. Learning to respect others is not easy. First, we should show respect form the bottom of our heart without making others think we're superficial. Second, every little action, every small expression might hurt people.I remember a few friends of mine lost their opportunity just because of some small mistakes. For example, if a student asks a teacher a question and the teacher replies that it's easy. The student might feel humiliated and won't ask the teacher again. He might even lost the excitment to learn.
The different backgrounds we have result in our different values. So nobody has the right to force others to accept their ideas. So we have to be tolerant. As long as he or she doesn't violate your basic regulation, why not treat it in a tolerant way? Even if they have made you unhappy, just let it gone with the wind.
To be tolerant, you can;t speak extreme words. You might get in trouble just because of some words you think can bring you temporary pleasure. Even if you're criticizing people, you should try to be mild.
Tolstoy is a great author. But his life is a tragedy, mostly resulted from his marriage. His wife's ever-lasting complain had put him to death. When Tolstoy was 82, he could bear his wife anymore and ran out of his house. He ended up dead in the railway station. Before he died, his only requirement was that his wife wouldn't be allowed to be with him. Lincoln was also like him. Some people say that the greatest tragedy in Lincoln's life wasn't that he was shot dead but his wife, Mary. For 23 years, he had to tolerate his wife's noise.
So come on everybody, show more respect and be more tolerant.
2011-03-21 10:49 编辑：kuaileyingyu