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发人深省的临终遗言

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我曾经多年从事临终关怀工作。我的病人都是些回到家中等待死亡的人,和家人分享一些难以置信的特殊的时刻。我在他们生命的最后3到12周的时间里和他们在一起。
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
人们在面对自己的死亡命运时会成长很多。我学到的是永远不要低估一个人成长的能力。有些变化是非凡的。每个人都经历了各种各样的情感,正如预料到的,拒绝接受、害怕、生气、懊悔、更多地拒绝接受,然后,最终接受现实。每一个病人在走之前找到了他们的平静,他们中的每一个都不例外。
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
当被问到有没有什么遗憾或有什么事他们会做得不一样时,相同的话题会反复出现。下面就是最普遍的5个:
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1 我希望我曾经有勇气过一种对自己来说真实的生活,而不是其他人希望我过的生活。
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
这是所有遗憾中最常见的一点。当人们意识到他们的一生几乎要完结而清晰地回顾这一生时,他们容易发现有很多的梦想都没有实现。绝大多数的人甚至连一半的梦想都没有实现而不得不在知道正是由于他们做了或没做什么选择造成这样的情况下走向死亡。
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
在人生的路途中去尝试和执行你的至少一些梦想是非常重要的。从失去健康的那一刻起,一切都太迟了。很少人意识到健康带来自由,直到他们不再拥有健康时才知道这一点。
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2 我希望我没有这么辛苦地工作过。
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
这点我护理过的每个男性病人都提到过。他们错过了他们的孩子们的青年时期和他们伴侣的陪伴。女病人也谈到这个遗憾。但是因为大多数是老一代人提到,许多女性病人不是养家煳口的人。所有我护理过的男人都深深地悔恨于浪费了那么多的生命在枯燥无味的工作上。
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
通过在生命途中简化你的生活方式和做些有意识的选择的话,你是有可能不需要那些你认为你会需要的收入的。还有,通过在你的生活中创造更多的空间,你会变得更快乐和更能遇到新的机会,那些更适合你的新的生活方式的东西。
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3 我希望我能有勇气表达我的感情。
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
很多人抑制他们的感情为了同其他人和平相处。结果是,他们勉强认可了一种平庸的生存状态而再没有成为他们真正能够成为的样子。许多人因为他们的悲苦和怨恨而得了病。
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
我们不能控制他人的反应,但是,虽然人们可能在你通过诚实诉说来改变你的样子时有些最初的反应,但到最后,这会将关系提高到一个全新的和更健康的水平。或者将不健康的关系从你的生活中释放。任一个方式都是你赢。
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4 我希望我曾经和朋友们保持了联系。
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
他们常常不会真的意识到老朋友的好处直到临死的几个星期。当然,这不是一直都能查寻到的。许多人因为被自己的生活所缠住而让金子般的友谊滑走了很多年。关于没有给予友谊以值得的时间和努力,有很多深深的遗憾存在。每个人在垂死时都想念他们的朋友。
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
对任何人来讲在繁忙的生活中让友谊溜走是常见的现象,但是,当你面对即将走向的死亡时,生活中的物质的细节会渐渐消失。如果可能的话人们真的想将财务事务处理有序,但是对他们来说真正重要的东西并不是金钱或地位。他们更多是想通过处理好各种事务让他们所爱的人受益,虽然通常的情况是他们太虚弱和疲惫以至于不能处理好这个事情。最终,所有的事情都归结于爱和关系。爱和关系,这就是留存在生命最后几周中的东西。
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5 我希望我曾经让自己更快乐。
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
这是一个让人吃惊的常见遗憾。许多人直到生命的终结时才意识到快乐是一种选择。他们过去是陷入旧的方式和习惯中。那个被称作熟悉的“舒适感”泛滥于他们的情绪中,也泛滥于他们的实际的生活中。害怕改变使他们假装成其他人而不是他们自己,他们那时是满意的。当深深遗憾其间时,他们渴望能在生命中再次地适时大笑和犯糊涂。
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
当你在临终之时,其他人考虑你些什么离你的内心很遥远。能让你走和再次微笑是多么美妙的事情啊,这是你临死之前渴望的。
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
生活是一种选择。这是你的生活。清醒地选择,明智地选择,诚实地选择吧。选择快乐。
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
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2010-09-06 12:24 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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    Yes! Right! We all should live a good life, because we all will die long time.

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