Whether he’s working on a documentary photography series or an impish art installation, Toledano’s work tends to be highly conceptual, “a club sandwich of reasoning and rationale,” as he puts it. But his new book, “Days with My Father,” is different. The premise is simple: after Toledano’s mother died, in 2006, Toledano started taking photographs of his father, documenting their relationship in what would be his father’s final years. “I took very few pictures, maybe a hundred or a hundred and fifty total,” Toledano said. “I didn’t want the picture-taking process to overwhelm being with my father.” After a while, Toledano started posting the photos on a blog, along with simple text, some funny, some painful. The response was overwhelming; to date, viewers from around the world have left more than ten thousand comments on the series, a testament to its unforced emotional power.
The pictures are spare and unstudied. “I like photographs to be like unfinished sentences,” Toledano said. “I want the person looking to fill in the other half.” Toledano’s father hated them. “It was hilarious,” Toledano said. “I’d just taken a picture for The New Yorker, actually, and I told him that, and he said, ‘Oh, that’s fantastic. What else are you doing?’ And I said, ‘I’m taking these photographs of you and me, and documenting our lives together.’ And he said, ‘Oh, that sounds great. You’re a genius! Show me these pictures.’ So I bring them out, and he looks at them, and after a couple of minutes he goes, ‘These are terrible!’ And then he said, ‘You’re gonna be at the bottom of the pile if you don’t wake up. You gotta wake up!’ I said, ‘What happened, a minute ago I was a genius, and now I’m at the bottom of the pile?’ ” (It didn’t go much better when Toledano told his father that he’d put the photos on the Internet. “What’s the Internet?” he said. “Is it in color?”)
Toledano 说不管父亲怎么看，最重要的是他们父子俩一起度过的“焦点”下的时光。“给父亲拍照的时候，我想起了母亲的离开，过去的这几年，我的父亲母亲都走了，我的姑母还有叔叔——所有的人好像都同时离我而去，就行一颗小行星撞到了属于Toledano的一块大陆一样。家人的离去让我明白，那些 烦人的陈词滥调都是真的：也许明天你的父母就不在了，所以和父母在一起的时光很重要很重要。这都是真的。”
Whatever his father’s reaction, the important thing, Toledano said, was the focussed time they spent together. “It took my mom dying to make me take pictures of my father,” Toledano said. “Over the past few years, both my parents died, my aunt died, my uncle—everyone croaked simultaneously, like an asteroid hit the Toledano section of the continent. One of the things I realized after the Toledano mass extinction is that all of the clichés are true, which is really annoying. When they say that your parents might be gone tomorrow, the people you love might be gone in a second, so the time you have with them is really important—it’s all true.”
2010-06-22 07:31 编辑：kuaileyingyu
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