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如何让孩子彬彬有礼

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尽管世界其他地方对礼貌问题不以为然,礼节仍相当重要。教导孩子彬彬有礼,有助于孩子成为举止得体、有责任心、有贡献的社会成员。培养孩子知书达礼、教导对人友好的重要性,这些教育开始的越早、孩子越小,便越能理解吸收掌握。说到底,你最想避免的,是孩子不要从《美国偶像》评委西蒙(Simon)身上学会粗鲁。如何教导孩子彬彬有礼?请看以小技巧。
Despite the fact that the rest of the world does not reflect it, manners still matter. Teaching your child to be polite is an important part of raising a decent, responsible, productive member of society. The younger they are when you start working with them on their manners and teaching them the importance of being kind to others, the more they will absorb and learn. After all, the last thing you want is for them to learn how [not] to be polite from Simon on American Idol. Here are some tips on how to teach your child to be polite:
1.尊敬他人最重要
Respect is top of the list.
这说的可不是妻子生气时,对你嚷嚷的一首艾瑞·莎富兰克林(Aretha Franklin)歌曲标题。这是童年成长和学习礼貌的重要内容。首先教导孩子不仅要尊重长辈,还要尊重同龄人和自己。不要在长辈面前大声喧哗、对长辈使用合适/正式的称呼,如“是的,女士”,“您好,史密斯先生”等,这些看似是旧习的规矩,其实仍然代表了孩子是否有礼貌。
This is not just an Aretha Franklin song you wife hums when she's mad at you. It is an important part of childhood development and learning to be polite. Start by teaching your children to respect not only the adults around them, but also their peers and themselves. Rules such as never raising your voice to an adult, addressing elders by proper and/or formal terms such as "Yes, ma'am" or "Hello, Mr. Smith" may seem like a throwback to the past, but still reflect good manners in children.
2.合乎年龄的礼节
Emphasize "age appropriate" manners
比如从简单地教年幼的孩子说“请”和“谢谢你”入手。对于稍为年长一些的孩子,向其解释正确称呼年长者、保持正确坐姿或离开众人时说声抱歉的重要性。在适当的年龄教给孩子相应礼节,并在童年时期一以贯之地巩固,这是教会孩子懂礼貌的最有效的一个方法。
For example, start by simply teaching your younger children to say please and thank you. For slightly older children, explain the important of addressing older people properly or sitting with correct posture or saying excuse me when leaving a group of people. Teaching them manners at the right age and reinforcing them through their childhood is one of the most effective ways to teach your child to be polite.
3.以身作则,时时正面鼓励
Lead by example and use positive reinforcement regularly
如果孩子看到你总是彬彬有礼,他们便会模仿你的行为举止。不过得小心,这是把双刃剑。如果孩子看见你开车时诅咒挡路的人,他们也会模仿这种行为。此外,如果你时不时称赞他们的礼貌举止,由于天生具有想取悦父母的心态,孩子会一直重复这些礼貌举止。
If your children see you being polite often, they will often mimic your behavior. Careful though, this can go both ways; meaning, if they see you cursing out the person in front of you in traffic, they are likely to mimic that as well. In addition, if you compliment them on their good manners often, their innate desire to please you will kick in and they will continue to repeat their good behaviors.
4.角色扮演
Role-play
这是教导幼儿在不同场合都举止得当的独特教育法。你扮演的角色可以是另一个成年人、某个孩子或是电话那端的某人等,教孩子不同场景下应该说什么话才得体。这不仅是你和孩子之间一种有趣的游戏,还能帮助孩子在各种场合都能礼貌应对。
This is a unique way to reach small children how to act in various situations. You play the part of another adult, a random child, someone on the other end of the phone, etc. and work with him or her on the right thing to say in different scenarios. Not only is this a fun activity for you and your child, but it will help them to be prepared to be polite in a variety of different situations.
5.提供资源
Provide them with resources
有很多适合各个年龄段孩子阅读的、关于礼貌举止的优秀书本和指南。给孩子那些有他们特别喜爱的角色的乐观向上、色彩鲜艳的书本。当他们观看喜欢的电影或电视节目时,指出其中角色懂礼貌和表现良好礼节的场景。看到实际的礼貌行为将有助于他们发现自己身上的优良品质。
There are a lot of great books and guides on being polite available for children of all ages. Give them bright, colorful books with their favorite characters. Point out spots during their favorite movies or television shows where characters are being polite and exhibiting good manners. Seeing politeness in action will help them to notice these good traits for themselves.
6.使用奖惩制度
Put a punishment/reward system into play
就好比如果你没有修剪草坪,你就可能不能在家里整晚打扑克,你的孩子也不应为不良举止反而得到奖赏。这时,标签制度能发挥最好的作用。如果孩子在适当的场合表现得体,或者展现出有礼貌的良好举止,就奖励一张标签;如果表现粗鲁无礼,就拿走一张标签。当积累了一定数量的标签时,就带孩子去他最喜欢的餐厅吃东西,或是让孩子自己选一件小玩具、书籍。孩子喜欢受到奖励,因此奖惩制度是训练孩子行为得体的好方法。
Just as you likely will not get a chance to hold poker night at your place if you did not mow the lawn, your kids should not be rewarded for bad manners either. A sticker system actually works best here. If they were polite when they should be or had a display of exemplary good manners, reward them with a stick. If they were rude at some point during the day, take one away. After they've received a certain number of stickers, take them out to eat at their favorite place or let them choose a small toy or book. Children easily identify with rewards, so this is a good way to keep their behavior in check.
一个常见的误解是,彬彬有礼这种事没法教。而正确使用合乎孩子年龄段的方法策略,任何年龄的孩子都能学会彬彬有礼、举止得体。重要的是付出足够耐心和热忱。遵循上述小技巧,你将很快培养出一个懂礼貌的孩子。
It is a common misconception that young children can't be taught to be polite. Using the right combination of tactics that apply to their specific age group, children of any age can be taught to be polite and display good manners. It just takes a great deal of patience and commitment your part. Just follow the above tips to get the job done and you will have a polite child in no time!
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2010-05-23 22:34 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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