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生活不应该是你认为的那样(强烈推荐)

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改变”焦点“是需要努力的
Shifting Focus Takes Work
这不容易,需要努力和时间。以前我总让欲望牵着我的鼻子走。这些欲望有很多都是长期的,被主流生活观所倡导鼓舞的。但不论你怎么说,欲望就是痛苦的根源。
It’s not easy, it takes work and time. I used to rely heavily on my cravings to guide me. Many of them were long-term and get applauded in our society as being ambitious or forward-thinking. But however you describe them they are pain.
一些发生在我身上的事让我看清楚这些欲望是多么荒唐可笑。这些事都是自发的,我当然不可能去生造出来,他们让我看透了我的欲望是多么无意义。
A few events in my life helped me see how ridiculous these cravings were. These events happened spontaneously, so I couldn’t force one, but they helped me see how pointless my own cravings were.
我花了几个月的时间和精力想推广我这个流量几乎没什么增长的网站。结果失败了,我就休息了下,不管他了。没想到流量居然就成倍地上去了!我追求的女孩子拒绝了我(欲望真太tmd了)后来后来情况转变了:我喜欢上另一个了。这些经历让我知道我的欲望如何逼疯我,虽然我的欲望都没完全或永久地被满足。
One occurred after I spent months pushing myself to improve this website with negligible traffic growth. After all my cravings and failed satisfaction I took a break… and traffic tripled. Another happened when I fell for a woman who turned me down (craving can really suck…). Only to have the situation reversed with another person a few months later. These experiences and several others showed me how my own cravings were starting to drive me crazy, even though they could rarely be satisfied completely or permanently.
虽然这些经历让我知道了我的欲望是多么无理性,但是要用”聚焦过程“之法作为解决之道还是要做点努力的。
Although situations like these can point out the insanity of your desires, it takes a bit of work to adopt a process focus as an alternative.
如何成为一个“自在”的“成功者”
How to Become an Effortless Achiever
想要”聚焦过程“你有几个步骤要走。但关键是你要有这个意识!一旦你意识到你是”聚焦欲望“而不是”聚焦过程“,你就可以开始转变了。下面这些步骤可以帮助你。
There are a couple steps you need to take in order to start switching focuses. Awareness is crucial. Once you start recognizing your own craving focuses instead of process focuses, you can start to shift them. However, there are a few other steps that can help:
1、让过程”泛滥“
1) Make the Process Flow
”泛滥“这个词是心理学家Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi制造的。意思就是说你脑海被一件事完全地占据。”聚焦过程“就是让你的脑海占据的是”过程“。整个过程都是高度的挑战和享受。
Flow is a term coined by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. It describes the peak state where your mind is completely engaged with a task. With a process focus, you aim to make the process flow. The challenge level and enjoyment should be high, throughout the entire process.
我们总是认为工作要找喜欢的有激情的。那日常锻炼呢?功课呢?要读的书呢?过程“泛滥”要无处不在,而不单单是在工作上。“聚焦过程”让你寻找的是最能符合你兴趣的通往目标的道路,而不是最短的道路。
We’re told to find work we’re passionate about. But what about an exercise routine? Classes? Books to read? Flow needs to come everywhere, not just in your work. A process focus forces you to seek the route to a goal that produces the most flow and suits your interests, not just the shortest path.
2、有目标很好,但太过执着就不必了。
2) Goals are Good, Obsession is Not
其实,“聚焦过程”跟把你的生活当成游戏很像。有目标当然很重要,因为他们也是游戏的一部分。下棋如果没有目标的话也不会那么有趣了。让你聚焦“过程”不是说让你放弃目标。二者并没有冲突。只是不要让有目标的过程使你忽略了什么是最重要的。不要把目标看得太重,多关注点在游戏过程上吧。
In many ways, a process focus is like making your life into a game. Goals are important, therefore, because they give structure to the game. Chess wouldn’t be much fun if there was nothing to strive for. Just because you emphasize process and flow, doesn’t mean you should abandon goals. Just don’t let your need for a structured process allow you neglect what is important. Dial down the intensity of your goals and emphasize the game before.
3、别把你的鸡蛋都放在一个篮子里
3) Don’t Put All Your Eggs in One Basket
生活中,我们总是被教导要集中精力。别什么都去浅尝一下,眼睛放在一个目标上,然后尽全力去达到目标!虽然这个策略不错,当它很容易让你陷入欲望的泥沼中。不要认为你一定要集中精力才能达到目标。只有当你认为追求目标的过程是如此让你享受其中,你才能让它占据你大部分的思绪。
In life we’re told to focus. Don’t dabble, set your sights on one goal and achieve it with overwhelming force. While this is certainly a valid strategy, it can trick you into falling for your cravings. Don’t feel you need to focus just to achieve a goal. Only focus when the process becomes so fascinating that you want to let it occupy a majority of your thoughts.
我在做法是在一段时期里高度集中精力在我生活的一个部分,其他时期或着几个部分一起兼顾关注。这样的循环转换我就不会因为某部分高度集中精力而变得精疲力尽也不会因为三心二意地兼顾几个部分而感到无聊。
I oscillate between periods of intense focus on one area of my life to a focus on multiple areas. This cycle ensures I don’t burn out on one particularly intense process or get bored by only half-heartedly pursuing a bunch.
4、成就,地位,金钱是无意义的
4) Accomplishments, Status and Money are Meaningless
成就是生活金钱化的主宰。他们本身没什么内在价值,只不过是游戏成绩的符号。也不是单单因此而拒绝玩游戏了,只是不要把他们看得太重了。不要崇拜它
Accomplishments are the Monopoly money of life. They have no intrinsic value in the universe and are simply tokens of the game to give it structure. The solution isn’t to simply reject the game entirely, just don’t give the tokens more value than they have. Don’t worship them.
“聚焦过程”不会让你停留在过去的成功上。因为成功本身是无意义的,你只要一直追求有意思的目标就行了。
A process focus keeps you from resting on past successes. Since these successes are meaningless on their own, your only job is to keep pursuing interesting goals.
5、幸福就在当下,而不是在未知的将来
5) Happiness is Now, Not in the Future
幸福不是有很多漂亮美女的海滩,遥不可及。它就在这,就是现在,而不论你是住在高楼大厦里还是住在出租屋了。“聚焦过程”让你看重的是现在,因为你不再为可能永远得不到满足的欲望而担忧烦恼了。
Happiness isn’t a far-off beach with beautiful people. It’s here, right now, whether you live in a mansion or a rent-controlled apartment. A process focus forces you to look in the now since you stop worrying about satisfying your cravings that will never stop.
为了“跑”而“跑”!
Running to Run
几天前,在体育馆,我对”跑步“的涵义有了更清楚的理解。体育馆的通风条件不好,热得让人流汗。当我绕着橡胶跑道跑步时,我真切地感到肌肉的酸痛。踏在橡胶跑道上的每一步都在我耳朵里回响。
A few days ago I had a moment of clarity running at the gym. The ventilation was poor and the heat was causing me to sweat. I could feel the soreness in my muscles as I circled past people on the track. Music was in my ears and I could feel each foot hit the rubberized floor.
突然我发觉我根本没”跑步“的理由。我是个很体面的跑步者,我练习跑步也没人给我奖励。我现在身体倍棒,所以没什么保持体形或者减肥的理由。不,我意识到,我只是单纯地为了跑而跑。奔跑着,感受流汗的感觉,感受着肌肉的酸痛,感受着脚下的每一步。
I suddenly realized that I had no objective reason to run that day. I’m a decent runner and there is no real reward in me practicing. I’m already in good physical condition, so it isn’t an issue of staying in shape or losing weight.
当我意识到这些,我感到跑步更是一种享受了。现在,我所经历每一刻的都是目标,而不是障碍。每一步不是为了消耗卡路里,或锻炼肌肉,而仅仅跑的每一步。
No, I realized, I was simply running to run. Running to feel the sweat from the heat, soreness of my muscles and rubberized track beneath my feet. When I hit this realization, it made running so much more enjoyable. Now, instead of an obstacle, everything I experienced was the goal. Each step wasn’t a calorie burned or muscle strength added, it was just another step.
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2010-04-08 21:47 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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