想要达到永续成功的第三个步骤，是培养具有吸引力的 个性。令人愉快的个性，就是一种已经发展圆满的个性。为 了达到此一目标，你必须努力改善以下所列的25种个性。 别被这个数字吓倒了。因为其中有许多个性面，是彼此息息 相关的。改善了这方面的个性也将有助于其他个性的改善。
The third step in achieving lasting success is to develop an attractive personality.A pleasant personality is a well-rounded one;accordingly there are twenty-five different aspects of your personality which you must strive to improve. Don't be intimidated by that number,for you'll find that many of the aspects are closely related.Working to bolster one will help you strengthen many others.
积极心态，是无论在任何情况下，都应具备的正确心 态。这种心态是由“正面”的性格因素所构成的，诸如“信 心”、“正直”、“希望”、“乐观”、“勇气”、“进取心”、“慷 慨”、“耐性”、“机智”、“亲切”，以及“丰富的常识”。
A positive mental attitude is the right mental attitude in any given situation and is most often composed of the plus characteristics symbolized by such words as"faith," "integrity," "hope," "optimism," "courage" "initiative," "generosity," "tolerance," "tact," "kindliness," and "good common sense."
积极心态是具有吸引力最重要的个性。事实上，在17 项成功原则中，有许多项都以它作为关键性的要素。积极心 态影响你说话时的语气、姿势和脸部表情，它会修饰你说的 每一句话，并且决定你的情绪感受，它还会对你的思想产生 影响。
PMA is the most important aspect of any attractive personality;indeed,t is crucial to many of the Seventeen Principles of Success.PMA influences your tone of voice,your posture,your facial expressions.It modified every word you say and determines the nature of the emotions you feel.It affects every thought you have and the results your thoughts bring you.
为了比较起见，让我们来看一下消极心态的影响。消极 心态会浇熄你的热忱，蒙蔽你的想像力，降低你的合作意愿，使你失去自制能力，容易发怒，缺乏耐性，并且使你丧 失理性。
For the sake of contrast,let's examine the effects of a negative mental attitude.It dampens your enthusiasm,curtails your imagination,undermines your desire to be cooperative,overthrows your self-control,makes you sullen and intolerant,and,as if these weren't enough,throws your reasoning out of gear.
既然消极心态对你的破坏力如此之大，所以你最好还是 待在家里，别出来和人竞争，消极心态只会为你树立敌人， 并且摧毁你的成就和朋友。如果一位律师带着消极心态步人法庭，即使他所辩护的 是全世界最棒的案子，还是无法说服法官和陪审团。你会对一位容易发怒而又悲观的医生产生信心吗?不!人们是绝不会容忍消极心态的。
A negative mental attitude is so detrimental to your efforts that you are better off staying at home than venturing out into the world with it.It will only make you enemies and corrupt your good works and allinances.A lawyer who goes into court with best case in the word will convince neither judge nor jury if her attitude is negative.What kind of confidence would you have in a sullen,pessimistic doctor,no matter how many degrees hang on the will? None! People simply will not tolerate a bad mental attitude.
In contrast, a positive mental opens doors and allows you to display your skills and ambitions.Imagine that lawyer presenting her case with confidence,gaining the ear of judge and jury because she is distinctively self-assured.Wouldn't you rather be treated by a physician who sets you at ease,answer your questions plainly,and demonstrates a knowledge of his field?
Building a positive mental attitude is part of the other aspects of an attractive personality.As you read on,you'll see how understanding and applying each of these points reinforce your PMA.
2009-11-05 20:18 编辑：kuaileyingyu
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