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让自己胆子大起来

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如果你很害羞,很犹豫,或者很消极,那么你很可能会过上那种无聊的生活——充满了日常杂务和未实现的目标。凡是那些引领社会进步的人,大都是大胆的人——科学家,政客,艺术家,还有那些不甘于静候机遇的人——他们会主动地创造机遇。因此,如果你想变得大胆而勇往直前,以下这些渠道可帮助提高你的气势。
If you’re shy, hesitant, or passive, you run the risk of leading a boring life marked by routine and unfulfilled goals. Most progress has been led by people who were bold–scientists, political servants, artists, and others who didn’t wait for opportunities; they created opportunities. So if you want to be bold and unstoppable, here are some ways to kick start your momentum.
1. 假装自己很大胆
1. Pretend you’re already bold.
如果你想和那些非常大胆的人交换一下,试想他们如果是你的话会怎么表现呢?如果你认识某个特别大胆的人,想象一下他们的行为。如果你不认识那样的人,就想象一下电影或书里那些大胆、勇敢的人物。每周找一天时间,花一个小时来假装自己就是他们。
If you were to switch places with somebody who is as bold as bold can be, what would they do in your shoes? If you already know someone who’s bold, imagine how they’d act. If you don’t know anyone like that, think of a character from a movie or book who’s daring and brave. Spend one hour a day or one day a week pretending to be them.
当你这么做时,最好找一个没人认识你的地方,一个不会有人因你一反常态的行为而十分惊讶的地方。装装样子,然后看看发生了什么——你可能会发现,当你做那些大胆的行为时奇妙的事情发生了;你可能会决定将这种大胆的行为蔓延到你的日常生活中。
When you do this, go somewhere that people don’t know you and won’t act surprised when you do things that are out of character. Go through the motions and see what happens — you might discover that amazing things happen when you’re bold, and you might be convinced to carry this bold behavior into your everyday life.
2. 主动一些
2. Make the first move.
若你感到犹豫,无论何时——尤其是在你与他人往来时——别摆架子,主动一些。问问那些熟人是否愿意在下班后去酒吧喝上两杯;告诉那些你所喜爱的人,你有两张音乐会的票,你希望他们能跟你一起去;给你亲爱的另一半一个深深的拥抱,并对几个月前你过激的行为表示歉;对出纳员微笑示意。
Whenever you’re feeling hesitant–especially in your interactions with others–swallow your pride and make the first move. Ask your acquaintance if they’d like to go to the bar down the street for drinks after work. Tell the person you fancy that you’ve got two tickets to a concert and you’d like them to come with you. Give your significant other a big hug and apologize for that time you overreacted a few months ago. Smile and wink at the attractive cashier.
3. 做一些使人出乎意料的事
3. Do something unpredictable.
做些什么才能让那些认识你的人感到惊讶呢?穿高跟鞋?跳伞?报个舞蹈班?大胆的人不怕尝试新事物,他们能使周围的人如此兴奋的原因之一,是你总也猜不透他们在想什么。
What could you do that would completely surprise the people who know you? Wear high heels? Skydive? Take a dance class? Bold people aren’t afraid of trying new things, and one of the reasons they’re so exciting to be around is that they keep you guessing.
你可以从小事着手,比如说你可以试试那些你平时不穿的颜色、款式的衣服;或者去一些你平时不去的地方参观。最后,你就可以说出一些使人瞠目结舌的话(“你认真的?你想玩激流漂?”或者“你逗我呢吧!你想把第三街的餐馆买下来?)。
You can start small, perhaps by wearing a color or style of clothing that you don’t normally wear, or visiting a place you normally wouldn’t visit. Eventually, you may get to the point where you entertain ideas that make other people’s eyes widen when you mention them (”Are you serious? White water rafting?” or “You’re kidding me. You want to buy that restaurant on 3rd Street?”).
4. 要求你想要的
4. Ask for what you want.
与其等着被他人认可你的努力,或指望谁去考虑你的需求,不如走上前去要求。有人觉得索要是贪婪、自私、无礼的——没错,前提是你索要的是你没资格拥有的东西。但如果有人剥夺了你有权拥有的东西,他们才是贪婪、自私、无礼的。
Rather than wait to be recognized for your efforts, or expect someone to consider your needs, step right up to the plate and ask.
况且,最坏又能怎样呢?即使他们拒绝了你。你依旧能照常生活。
Some people feel that asking for things is greedy, selfish, and rude — and it is, if you’re asking for something you don’t deserve. But if someone is withholding something that you’ve rightfully earned, they’re the ones being greedy, selfish, and rude.
要求你一直等待(并且努力)的晋升或加薪。
Besides, what’s the worst that could happen? They say no. Life goes on.
要求折扣:小小的杀价意义深远。一句“你能为我做什么?”是一种既简单又强势的省钱方法。
Ask for that promotion or pay raise you’ve been waiting (and working) for. Ask for a discount. A little haggling can go a long way. The phrase “What can you do for me?” is an easy and powerful way to save money. Ask to have your credit card’s annual fee waived. Ask a relative, friend, or even a complete stranger for help or advice. Ask for clarification if you’re not sure what is expected of you. 5. Take risks.
要求免除你信用卡的年费。
There’s a difference between being reckless and accepting risks. Reckless people don’t accept risks… they don’t even think about them. A bold person, on the other hand, is well aware of the risks, and has decided to go through with the decision anyway, ready and willing to accept the consequences if things don’t work out.
请求亲属、朋友,或陌生人提供帮助或建议。
Think of an athlete who takes risks every day. Are they reckless? No. It’s a measured risk. You might make a mistake; we all do. But inaction can be a mistake as well, one that leads to emptiness and regret. For many people, having taken risks and fallen flat on their faces was far more fulfilling than having done nothing at all.
试着弄清他人对自己的期望。(不确定是不是这个意思,希望大家都说说自己是怎么理解这句话的。)
Likewise, don’t confuse being bold with being aggressive. Aggressiveness often involves imposing your viewpoints or actions on others. Boldness has nothing to do with the people around you; it’s about overcoming your fears and taking action.
5. 冒险
Remember that while there’s power in taking on something new, there’s also a greater chance of failure because of your lack of experience. Embrace the failure; it’s not the opposite of success, it’s a necessary component. The opposite of success is sitting still.
鲁莽和冒险是有区别的。鲁莽的人不赞同风险……他们甚至不考虑风险。反之,一个大胆的人,非常清楚风险,并且无论如何都要贯彻自己的决定,即使没有成功,他们也有准备并且乐意去接受所有后果。想想那些每天冒险的运动员。他们鲁莽吗?不,那是一种审慎的冒险。你或许会失误,我们都会。但是不活动同样也是失误——他会使你空虚、后悔。对许多人来说,只要冒险了,即使输的一败涂地,也比什么都没做强多了。
6. Rediscover who you are.
同样,不要觉得大胆就是挑衅。挑衅是把你的个人观点和行为强加于他人。而大胆和你周围的人毫无关系。大胆是超越你的恐惧并且行动起来。记住:既然有了尝试新事物的勇气,就会有更多因缺乏经验而导致的失败。拥抱失败——失败并非成功的对立面,失败是成功的要素。成功的对立面是静止不前。
Ultimately, boldness has to do with coming from your center, what you believe. It is not about what you do, it is about who you are. If you do not know who you are, you can never be truly bold.
6. 重新认识自己
Start really appreciating your uniqueness. Discover what makes you different and then parade it around for all to see. Put flags on it, call attention to it and love yourself for it no matter what others think. That is the heart of boldness.
最后:大胆只和你的内心有关,和你的信念有关;和你做了什么无关。大胆关乎你是谁——如果你不清楚自己是谁,你永远也做不到真正的大胆。
从发自内心地欣赏自身的独特做起。探索那些使你与众不同的东西,然后向大家展示出来。为你的独一无二之处插上一面旗子,引起他人注意,无论别人怎么想都深爱自己。这才是大胆的心。
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2009-11-01 17:05 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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