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不仅你的说话可能会冒犯一些人,而且言语背后的腔调和态度也经常会对周围的人造成极大的伤害。
Your language might offend some people, but the tone and attitude behind your words do far greater damage to all of your relationships.
即使朋友和同事把脏话当作家常便饭,如果你能控制住自己不用那些很具代表性的脏话,你就会觉得自己更加成熟、有才智、措辞得体、有教养、考虑周到、令人愉悦。你可以如此选择,或者选择被认为是粗鲁的、不懂礼貌的、没有教养的人。
Even if your friends and associates commonly use cuss words, you will be perceived as more mature, intelligent, articulate, polite, considerate and pleasant if you control your language and the emotions that typically prompt expletives. You can choose to have character and class, or be considered rude, crude and crass.
尽管有时骂人很诙谐,但是有时也是泛滥成灾。它有助于发泄愤怒,也会激起愤怒;它能缓解压力,也会形成压力;它可能是机巧的、轻浮的,也可能是大男子主义的、恐吓的。因此,无论何时何地,都须保持谨慎。管住它、驯服它、使它合于时宜。或者,为求保险,完全不说这些脏话。
Cursing is sometimes humorous, but sometimes abusive. It can help vent anger, or provoke it. It can relieve stress, or cause it. It can be clever and flirtatious, or sexist and intimidating. Consequently, be aware of when and where you swear. Control it, tame it, time it. Or, to be on the safe side, stop using it altogether.
一:认识咒骂的害处
1. Recognize that swearing does damage.
因为舒适、好玩、率直、说狠话、表真情、违反规则等情状以及或多或少地地降低愤怒和痛苦,你可能会咒骂,但是弊大于利。你不会因为破口大骂而赢得一场争论;也不可能证明自己天资聪颖、辩才无碍;也无法赢得别人的尊重和敬仰。虽没有这方面的动机,但是你是在恐吓别人。咒骂无助于你找到好工作、获得晋升加薪或拥有一段美好的恋情。
You probably swear because it is easy, fun, candid, emphatic, expressive, breaks rules, and somehow partially reduces anger and pain. But the negatives outweigh the positives. You really don't win an argument by swearing. You don't prove that you are smart or articulate. You don't earn respect or admiration. You don't motivate, you intimidate. Swearing doesn't get you hired, promoted, or romantically connected.
二:从不随意咒骂开始
2. Start by eliminating casual swearing.
设想你的身边跟着亲爱的老祖母或年轻的女儿。用避讳方式,而不是用攻击性的形容词来表达你的说话重点。多用描述性的话语,而不是用“s”词语来描述你所感受到的、别人看到的、闻到的对象、工作和天气。(译者按:"s" word,即the word “shit”,而“shit”据说是来源于“'Ship High in Transit”这样一个用于海洋运输的短语,它是该短语的首字母缩写。)
Pretend that your sweet little grandmother or your young daughter is always next to you. Use inflections for emphasis instead of offensive adjectives. Be more descriptive instead of using the "s" word to describe everything from objects, work and the weather to the way you feel, the way someone looks, and the way something smells.
三:多往好处想
3. Think positively.
多想想令人高兴的一面。培养一种“有为”的态度。不要老盯住你被缠住的问题不放,可以希望有一个很好的结果。积极的心态,不仅会消除大量的咒骂,也会让你满意自己的个性,变得更加开朗。
Look to the bright side. Develop a "can do" attitude. Worry only to the point that motivates you to prepare for the problem, then hope for the best. A positive mental attitude not only eliminates lots of swearing, it brings you contentment and brightens your personality.
四:多一点忍耐
4. Practice being patient.
当你在排队中或公车上被骗,不妨多问自己几个小问题。诚实,真的很要紧么?如果真的是这样,你就没有控制住这种情形,不妨计划一下自己所剩下的时间,或想一想你说你从没有时间去做的事情。和一些人聊聊天,哪怕是陌生人。
When you are stuck in line or in traffic, ask yourself if a few more minutes matters. Be honest -- does it really matter? If so, and you have no control of the situation, plan the rest of your day or do the thinking that you say you never have time to do. Talk to someone, even a stranger in line with you.
五:不要咒骂
5. Cope, don't cuss.
我们生活在一个并不完美的世界,然而我们还是期望它变得更好。每一天都充满了恼怒、耽搁、失望和挫折。事实上,我们总得去面对、处理这些。因此,放下谩骂,学习如何去解决吧。设想一下,哪怕是很小的一个烦恼,如果你能悦然面对、泰然处之,你肯定会觉得非常地自豪。
We live in an imperfect world, yet our expectations continually increase. Each day can be filled with aggravations, delays, disappointments and frustrations. The fact is, we have to deal with them anyway. So stop cussing and learn to cope. Consider even the smallest annoyance a challenge, and feel proud of yourself for taking care of it cheerfully and efficiently.
六:少一点抱怨
6. Stop complaining.
在你开始抱怨或发牢骚前,别忘了这样一个重要的事实:没人喜欢听你的牢骚!他们为什么不喜欢听?尽量不要抱怨那些你和周边的人都无法控制的事情。尽管有他人在抱怨,还是试图找一个合理的解决问题吧。别人会佩服你的判断能力、智慧和解决问题的方法。
Before you start griping or whining about something, remind yourself of a very important reality: no one wants to hear it! Why would they? Avoid complaining about matters that you and the people with you have no control over. For all other complaints, try to offer a rational solution. Others will admire your common sense, wisdom and calm approach to the problem.
七:换一个词来表达
7. Use alternative words.
英语是一种多姿多彩的语言,但是谩骂者也使用着同样的语言,他们使用那些无趣的词语已经长达几个世纪。花点时间为你现在所用的肮脏的话语整理一份替代性字词清单吧。这取决于你本身的智力以及你对词典和圣经乃至一些不错的电视节目的熟悉程度。例如,用谎言、谎话、胡说、夸大其词、胡扯、胡言乱语、说大话、废话、可笑的话、说梦话来代替B.S.,它们一开始可能不太使你满意,但是最终它们会很合你的意。
English is a colorful language, but chronic cursers repeatedly use the same, unimaginative words that have been around for centuries. Take the time to develop your own list of alternatives to the nasty words you now use, relying on your own intelligence, a thesaurus, good books, and even some of the more clever TV shows. Select a few powerful or even funny words, and get in the habit of substituting them for swear words. For example, instead of B.S., choices range from lie, fabrication, nonsense and exaggeration to bunk, baloney, drivel, malarkey, hokum, hogwash and balderdash. They might not give you satisfaction at first, but they will eventually.
八:有礼貌地説服他人
8. Make your point politely.
如果你的话是伤人的、侮辱人的,替换词也一样很具有攻击性。想一想你正打算说的话所引起的反应,然后确定你是否需要改口说以达到更好的效果。例如,如果有人跟你说,你正在做不适当的事情,你的反应可以是“你是什么东西?”也可以是“我不在乎”、“真的不打紧”、“我认为我的方式很好”。第一个反应是自我防卫过当、具有挑衅性、很争强好胜,表明了一个糟糕的态度。最后一个反应是别人较为悦纳的辩护方式。花点时间,用成熟而令人心悦诚服的方式说服别人。
Some substitute words can be just as offensive if your tone is abrasive or you insult someone. Think of the response to what you are about to say, and decide if you need to reword your statement to be more effective. For example, if someone suggests that you are doing something incorrectly, your response can range from "Who gives a flying f___?" to "I don't care," to "It really doesn't matter," or "I think my way is faster." The first reply is defensive, defiant, belligerent, and reflects a terrible attitude. The last reply is a justification that the other person might appreciate. Take the time to make your point in a mature and convincing manner.
九:考虑一下你应该说什么
9. Think of what you should have said.
谩骂之词,很容易在不是时候的时候脱口而出,或者在你有机会考虑其影响之前,轻易地给出不老练、没趣味的评论。想一想你该说什么。你说出谩骂之词后,只是说出了你希望说出的话而已。如果你给出的是一个你事后才意识到它是负面的、对抗性的、粗鲁的说明,想一下你该怎么来表达。随着时间的流逝,这些操练将使你从不同的角度来想问题、做事情。
It is easy to blurt out a swear word at an inappropriate time, or to bark out a tactless or tasteless remark before you have a chance to consider the impact. Think of what you could have said. After you shout an expletive, simply say the tamer word you wished you had said. If you make a statement that you later realize was negative, confrontational or rude, think of how you could have phrased the statement. Over time, these exercises will train you to think and act differently.
十:多多练习
10. Work at it.
改掉说脏话的毛病要比减肥、戒烟或矫正其他坏习惯容易得多。多多练习,多寻求他人的支持,保持成为良民的渴望——不仅要控制你的言辞,也要控制你想说脏话的情绪。如下是一些练习的方法:1)用文雅的语言来想问题,变消极的思想包袱为积极的解决方案。2)当你在测试自己的脾性、试图改变自己说话的方式的时,考虑清楚你要说什么以及应该怎么说。3)将你的努力告诉你的家人和朋友,你将会变得更加谨慎、克制。4)确定你什么时候、为什么最想说脏话,寻找适合改变你行为方式的诀窍。
Breaking the swearing habit might prove to be no easier that losing weight, giving up cigarettes, or correcting any other habit. It takes practice, support from others, and a true desire to be a better person -- not only by controlling your language, but the emotions that prompt you to swear. Here are a few exercises to condition yourself: • Think in clean language, and switch negative thoughts into positive solutions.• When you are on your way to a situation you know will test your temper and your tongue, plan ahead what you will say and how you will say it.• Tell your family or friends what you are doing, and you will be more cautious around them.• Determine when and why you swear the most, and develop your own tricks for changing your behavior.
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2009-10-20 09:06 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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