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小编摘要:俗话说:远亲不如近邻,但是如果遇到的邻居不咋地,很是恼人,大家又是抬头不见低头见,该怎么办呢?

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俗话说:远亲不如近邻,但是如果遇到的邻居不咋地,很是恼人,大家又是抬头不见低头见,该怎么办呢?

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Many neighbor disputes end up in court because of poor communication. If something’s happening that’s dangerous or illegal, the cops are the obvious answer. But if problems arise that are a bit more gray, communication is the best way to save money and hassle. Here’s the best way to be a good neighbor and deal with a bad one.

1. Get to know each other. Being a good neighbor doesn’t mean taking family vacations together. Just knowing them well enough to say hi, or maybe borrowing a cup of sugar or loaning a gardening tool, can build trust and understanding. Issues are much more likely to escalate among strangers than even casual acquaintances.

2. Head off problems before they’re problems. If you are throwing a party at your place, go to all neighbors who might be affected and offer them two things: a verbal invitation to the party and a card with your phone number. If the noise escalates or there is another problem, your neighbor can call you instead of the police.

3. Document the problem. When an issue comes up, start keeping notes – times, dates, and photos if necessary. This can help in three ways. First, it helps you evaluate the seriousness of the problem: Looking at it on paper, you may realize it’s not as big a deal or you might see a solution. Second, you have info to back you up when you explain the situation to your neighbor. And finally, if push comes to shove, good record-keeping can show authorities you’re serious and organized, not emotional and whiny.

Plus: Are You Paying Your Neighbor’s Bills?

4. Talk it out. Tell your neighbor what’s bothering you – don’t assume they know what the problem is. Be open and direct, not passive-aggressive. Ask for their input, and wherever possible, propose a solution that splits the difference and demonstrates a willingness to compromise. Stay cool and positive, even if they’re not.

5. Look for advice or solace online. Sites like Neighbors From Hell have message boards where people discuss their issues and help each other. This one’s free to view and is full of common issues and good advice, but registering will cost $50 if you want to ask about a unique problem. If you just want to vent, try sites like AnnoyingNeighbors.com.

6. Check with other neighbors. See if anybody else on the block is having similar issues – they may be willing to help resolve it. If one of the neighbors is closer to the troublemaker, have them come with you when you talk it out.

7. See if anyone else will side with you. If talking doesn’t work, try getting more help. If you’re part of a condo or homeowner’s association, speak with them about the problem and see if they can resolve it more easily (and cheaply) than you can.

8. Talk to a lawyer. If you’ve tried everything, you can consult a lawyer and have them write a letter threatening legal action. Warning: This can not only cost a few hundred dollars, but it may also throw gas on the fire. Make it a last resort.

Plus: 3 Tips for Lower Lawyer Bills

9. Get a mediator. A neutral third party experienced in settling disputes may succeed where you can’t, although it can only work if your neighbor is willing to talk. It’s a lot cheaper than going to court, though – in some cases, it may even be free. Look up a nearby mediation program at the National Association for Community Mediation.

10. Write and report. If you suspect your neighbor is violating city ordinances, do a little research, write it up, and submit it to the proper authorities. You can look up municipal law at places like Municode.com, and you can learn all about code enforcement on your city’s website. If your neighborly dispute involves code violations, the city might solve your problem for you. But don’t try to anonymously report code violations on your neighbor. Not only does the neighbor usually figure out who “snitched” anyway, but they may resent you for being a passive-aggressive busybody, which can make future situations trickier. Remember you still have to live next to these people.

11. Call the cops. If you’ve acted in good faith with no success, involving the police is the next step. You can explain the situation and show how you’ve tried to work it out and kept notes, but realize they probably can’t do much unless a law or ordinance is being broken. This is for things like excessive noise and illegal activity, not a tree limb hanging into your yard. Nonetheless, a police presence might show your neighbor that you aren’t going to let the problem go.

12. Take it to small claims court. This is much cheaper than a bigger lawsuit (which can cost $10,000 or more) because you can represent yourself. But you must do your homework – you need to lay out the problem, provide evidence, and come up with a reasonable damage estimate that you can justify when questioned. Damages are usually capped at a few thousand dollars, although the amount varies by state. And don’t be Judge Judy material: no exaggerations, no pettiness
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  • J_Jen 说:

    hmm i should follow this, because my neighbor is totaly nut!!!
    and l live in canada...

    2012-01-07 05:55 回复 支持(0) 反对(0) 沙发
  • Many neighbor disputes end up in court because of poor communication. If something’s happening that’s dangerous or illegal, the cops are the obvious answer. But if problems arise that are a bit more gray, communication is the best way to save money and hassle. Here’s the best way to be a good neighbor and deal with a bad one.
    许多邻居纠纷最终在法庭上因为缺乏沟通。如果事情发生的危险或不合法,警察是最明显的答案。但如果出现问题,是一个较为灰色,沟通是最好的方式来节省金钱和麻烦。这是最好的方式,成为好邻居,处理好。
    1. Get to know each other. Being a good neighbor doesn’t mean taking family vacations together. Just knowing them well enough to say hi, or maybe borrowing a cup of sugar or loaning a gardening tool, can build trust and understanding. Issues are much more likely to escalate among strangers than even casual acquaintances.
    1。互相了解。作为一个好邻居并不意味著采取家庭度假,在一起。只要知道他们不够好说你好,或者借用一杯糖或贷款园艺工具,可以建立信任和理解。问题是更可能升级的陌生人比熟人。
    2. Head off problems before they’re problems. If you are throwing a party at your place, go to all neighbors who might be affected and offer them two things: a verbal invitation to the party and a card with your phone number. If the noise escalates or there is another problem, your neighbor can call you instead of the police.
    2。头的问题才是问题。如果你是一个派对你的地方,去所有的邻居谁可能受到影响,他们提供两点:口头邀请党和卡与您的电话号码。如果噪声升级或有另一个问题,你的邻居会叫你不是警察。
    3. Document the problem. When an issue comes up, start keeping notes – times, dates, and photos if necessary. This can help in three ways. First, it helps you evaluate the seriousness of the problem: Looking at it on paper, you may realize it’s not as big a deal or you might see a solution. Second, you have info to back you up when you explain the situation to your neighbor. And finally, if push comes to shove, good record-keeping can show authorities you’re serious and organized, not emotional and whiny.
    3。文件的问题。当一个问题出现了,开始记笔记的–时间,日期,和照片,如果有必要。这可以帮助在三个方面。首先,它可以帮助你评估问题的严重性:在寻找它的文件,你可能意识到这不是大不了的或您可能会看到一个解决方案。其次,你有支持你当你说明情况,你的邻居。最后,如果迫不得已,良好的记录可以显示当局你认真组织,没有情绪和烦躁。
    Plus: Are You Paying Your Neighbor’s Bills?
    加:你邻居的钞票吗?
    4. Talk it out. Tell your neighbor what’s bothering you – don’t assume they know what the problem is. Be open and direct, not passive-aggressive. Ask for their input, and wherever possible, propose a solution that splits the difference and demonstrates a willingness to compromise. Stay cool and positive, even if they’re not.
    4。说出来听听。告诉你的邻居是什么困扰着你–不要认为他们知道是什么问题。公开和直接,不被动攻击。征求他们,并在可能的情况下,提出了一个解决方案,将差异和演示了一个妥协的意愿。保持冷静和积极的,即使他们不。
    5. Look for advice or solace online. Sites like Neighbors From Hell have message boards where people discuss their issues and help each other. This one’s free to view and is full of common issues and good advice, but registering will cost $50 if you want to ask about a unique problem. If you just want to vent, try sites like AnnoyingNeighbors.com.
    5。寻求咨询或安慰。像地狱邻居有留言板,人们讨论他们的问题和互相帮助。这一免费查看和满是共同的问题和建议,但注册将花费50美元,如果你想问的问题。如果你只是想发泄,尝试annoyingneighbors.com之类的网站。
    6. Check with other neighbors. See if anybody else on the block is having similar issues – they may be willing to help resolve it. If one of the neighbors is closer to the troublemaker, have them come with you when you talk it out.
    6。与其他邻居。看看别人对块是有类似的问题–他们可能愿意帮助解决它。如果一个邻居是接近者,他们与你当你说出来。
    7. See if anyone else will side with you. If talking doesn’t work, try getting more help. If you’re part of a condo or homeowner’s association, speak with them about the problem and see if they can resolve it more easily (and cheaply) than you can.
    7。看看别人会在你身边。如果不谈论工作,努力获得更多帮助。如果你是一个公寓或房屋协会,同他们谈谈这个问题,看看他们是否能解决它更容易(和成本)比你可以。
    8. Talk to a lawyer. If you’ve tried everything, you can consult a lawyer and have them write a letter threatening legal action. Warning: This can not only cost a few hundred dollars, but it may also throw gas on the fire. Make it a last resort.
    8。律师谈谈。如果你已经尝试了一切,你可以咨询律师,他们写了信,威胁采取法律行动。警告:这不仅可以成本数百元,但它也可能丢在火。使它最后的手段。
    Plus: 3 Tips for Lower Lawyer Bills
    加:3提示下律师费
    9. Get a mediator. A neutral third party experienced in settling disputes may succeed where you can’t, although it can only work if your neighbor is willing to talk. It’s a lot cheaper than going to court, though – in some cases, it may even be free. Look up a nearby mediation program at the National Association for Community Mediation.
    9。找个调解人。一个中立的第三方解决争端的经验可能成功,你不能,但它只能工作,如果你的邻居愿意说。它便宜很多比去法院–,虽然在某些情况下,它甚至可能是免费的。寻找附近的调解程序在全国社区调解协会。
    10. Write and report. If you suspect your neighbor is violating city ordinances, do a little research, write it up, and submit it to the proper authorities. You can look up municipal law at places like Municode.com, and you can learn all about code enforcement on your city’s website. If your neighborly dispute involves code violations, the city might solve your problem for you. But don’t try to anonymously report code violations on your neighbor. Not only does the neighbor usually figure out who “snitched” anyway, but they may resent you for being a passive-aggressive busybody, which can make future situations trickier. Remember you still have to live next to these people.
    10。写报告。如果你怀疑你的邻居是违反法令,做一个小小的研究,写出来,并提交给有关当局。你可以看看市政法律municode.com等地方,你可以学习一切有关代码执行城市网站。如果你的邻里纠纷涉及代码的行为,城市可能会为你解决你的问题。但不要试图匿名报告代码侵犯你的邻居。不仅在邻居通常找出谁是“偷”,但他们对你作为一个被动爱管闲事的人,它可以使未来的情况复杂。记得你还有住在旁边的这些人。
    11. Call the cops. If you’ve acted in good faith with no success, involving the police is the next step. You can explain the situation and show how you’ve tried to work it out and kept notes, but realize they probably can’t do much unless a law or ordinance is being broken. This is for things like excessive noise and illegal activity, not a tree limb hanging into your yard. Nonetheless, a police presence might show your neighbor that you aren’t going to let the problem go.
    11。叫警察。如果你真诚行事,没有成功,涉及警察是下一个步骤。你可以解释这个情况,表明你如何尝试解决它和保存的笔记,但意识到他们可能不能做,除非法律或条例被打破。这是一样的东西,过多的噪音和非法活动,不是一个树枝挂到您的院子。然而,一个警察的存在可能表明你的邻居,你不会让问题。
    12. Take it to small claims court. This is much cheaper than a bigger lawsuit (which can cost $10,000 or more) because you can represent yourself. But you must do your homework – you need to lay out the problem, provide evidence, and come up with a reasonable damage estimate that you can justify when questioned. Damages are usually capped at a few thousand dollars, although the amount varies by state. And don’t be Judge Judy material: no exaggerations, no pettiness
    12。它采取小额索赔法院。这是便宜得多,比一个更大的诉讼(这可能花费10000美元或更多)因为你可以代表自己。但你必须做你的家庭作业–你需要制定相关问题,提供的证据,并拿出一个合理的估计损失,你可以证明,当质疑。损害赔偿通常限制在几千元,虽然数额的不同状态。不要法官朱迪材料:没有夸张,没有琐碎

    2012-01-07 14:45 回复 支持(0) 反对(2) 板凳
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