今年夏天，你很可能看过一部喜剧片，片名是《老板不是人》（Horrible Bosses）。片中从事不同职业的三个人策划谋杀劣迹斑斑的老板。这部电影在今年夏天意外地一炮而红，在上映的首个周末，便登上票房亚军的宝座。电影票房统计网站Box Office Mojo称，该片是全球有史以来最卖座的黑色喜剧电影。
There's a decent chance you saw the movie "Horrible Bosses" this summer. A comedy about three men in different jobs who decide to murder their awful bosses, it was one of the season's surprise hits. On its opening weekend, it was the second-highest grossing film. It has become the highest-grossing dark comedy of all time worldwide, according to Box Office Mojo.
Obviously, the film struck a chord. Who hasn't suffered an awful boss somewhere along the line? We've yet to meet anyone who disagrees with the truism that people join companies but quit bosses.
But in our experience, not every instance of a "horrible boss" is entirely the fault of the boss. In fact, many instances are not. Most bosses, we've found, usually mean well, more or less, but they don't often do well. The difference is usually driven by ignorance of what they should be doing and how people are responding to their words and actions. In fact, bosses and their staff often tumble into a downward spiral of action-misunderstanding-reaction that feeds on itself and ultimately produces a relationship so toxic it can't be recovered.
If you believe your boss is horrible, we propose some questions you should answer before you do anything drastic like quitting -- or worse.
Are you performing up to expectations?
If not, why would you expect to have a great relationship with someone who must explain your shortcomings to his or her superiors? If you're falling short, you and your boss need to talk about why that's the case, what you can do about it, and what really should be expected of you. If you haven't done that, you should take responsibility and initiate that discussion.
What emotional baggage are you bringing into the relationship?
Your current boss isn't the first authority figure you've encountered. Even if you're just entering the workforce, you've already experienced a string of them, starting with your parents and extending through older siblings, schoolyard bullies, teachers, coaches, and a host of others. The sum of those experiences and the lessons you've drawn from them, usually in the form of unspoken assumptions, shape how you deal with and what you expect from every new authority figure, such as your current boss.
2011-09-15 11:10 编辑：kuaileyingyu