"The first time I saw him, I just fell in love with him. We have interests in common and our personalities complement each other.
"I am from Hunan and he is from Anhui. Both of us have been working in Beijing for seven to eight years, and we have just registered for our wedding after one-and-a-half years together.
"Both my husband's parents passed away and he comes from quite a poor family who cannot support him. I'm from quite a well-off family, but my parents are quite open-minded. Initially, they were not so happy about my choice. They wanted the best for me, someone with a house.
"Usually in our culture the husband buys the house and the wife buys the car.
"But my parents respected my decision and decided that the match was fine, since we get along well and we are deeply in love, and we are young. Sooner or later we will have our own place to live.
"I basically live from wage slip to wage slip, but my husband is more mature and has learned to save. He now has enough for a deposit on a small two-room apartment. But at the moment we do not think it is a good time to buy and we do not want to saddle ourselves with a mortgage.
"We have decided to wait until I am around 30 before we have a baby. We might consider buying a house in Changsha, either as an investment or as a permanent residence.
"I am one of the few who marries for love. I think only two women out of ten would choose to have a 'naked' marriage, most people are forced into it because they do not have any choice.
"Before I met my husband, I was like any other girl: full of requirements for my future man, including him owning a property. My parents also arranged a few blind dates for me who have good family backgrounds. They were nice people, but I think I care more about feelings and I didn't feel anything for them.
"I do not think I am being naive, but I do believe that we do not always need to worry about financials and the future, and it is more important that we stick together and care for each other. In the worst case, my parents will support us financially. I hate that people make money the central point of a relationship.
"Most of the women who desperately demand a house for marriage have been brought up perhaps in a poorer family and are hoping for a rich husband to change their lives.
"I used to think I must have both love and a house in my marriage. But then I realised sometimes you just need to make a choice. Now I suppose the dream is that the husband and the wife each have a house.
2011-08-25 14:24 编辑：kuaileyingyu