Operating a successful business is supposed to be a ticket to the good life -- but sometimes it comes at a cost. Stephen Adele was too busy building his $20 million Golden, Colo., nutritional supplements company, iSatori, to spend much time with his wife and three children.
"I would try to compensate by buying her and my family things," he recalls. The cars and jewelry didn't work, of course, and the couple just got divorced. Adele is now, finally, spending more time with his three daughters. Here's a little advice that might help you avoid matrimonial discord.
1. Keep a flexible schedule
You may not be able to work less, but you probably have time to take a few items off your spouse's to-do list. Brad Dresbach, co-founder of the Columbus branding and marketing firm 42Fish, tackles such daily errands for his family as picking up birthday cakes -- relieving stress for his wife, Danielle, who has a much more inflexible corporate job.
2. Ration e-mail time
When you're home, be present. Jeff Booth, CEO of BuildDirect, a 63-employee building materials retailer, has a wife, Kelly, who posts what a great dad he is on Facebook, though he spends 60 hours a week working. He attributes that to shutting off his phone as soon as he gets home so he can enjoy activities with her and their children-- instead of checking e-mail poolside.
3. Hold family summits
KB楼宇服务公司（KB Building Services）是位于美国奥马哈的一家商业清洁公司，其创始人D.J.瑞扎克说，每周会议可以让家庭关系更密切，也使他有时间与妻子丽莎共处。他们会在周日晚餐时共同谈论本周发生的事情，讨论未来的计划，偶尔还会举办才艺秀。“这让我觉得家庭是头等大事，”丽莎表示。
D.J. Rezak, founder of KB Building Services, a commercial cleaning company in Omaha, credits weekly meetings with keeping the family organized and freeing up time for him to spend with his wife, Lisa. The family pauses during Sunday dinners to talk about the week, discuss upcoming plans, and hold an occasional talent show. "It makes it feel like our family is a priority," says Lisa.
4. Share your interests
因为过度关注自己手头的事情，而忽略了对方的兴趣所在，这是很多人都容易犯的毛病。位于美国波士顿的我爱奖励公司（I Love Rewards）是一家员工奖励服务公司，销售额为5，000万美元。公司的首席执行官瑞勒·苏莱曼便是成功避免这个问题的典范。妻子卡丽是网页开发工程师，当她因工作需要必须参加会议时，瑞勒便会陪同前往。卡丽说：“瑞勒对我喜欢参加的活动也感兴趣，这真让人开心。否则，我们就缺少了这样的对话机会。”
It's easy to get so caught up in your own thing that you ignore your partner's pursuits. Razor Suleman, CEO of I Love Rewards, a Boston rewards and recognition business with $50 million in sales, tries to avoid that mistake. He joined his wife, Kari, a web developer, at a summit she needed to go to for work. "It was amazing that Razor took an interest in an event that I was excited to attend," she says. "It sparked a dialogue we would not have had otherwise."
5. Schedule regular vacations
Brad Feld, founder of VC firm Foundry Group, started scheduling regular vacations after his wife, Amy Batchelor, almost dumped him for working during an entire weekend trip. They now have one-week vacations each quarter -- known as their "Qx vacation." The ground rules? He unplugs completely, giving her his smartphone. "She gives it back the following week," he says. Colleagues work around it, and Feld stays married.
2011-07-19 09:45 编辑：kuaileyingyu