"Do you have a boyfriend yet, Paula?"I roll my eyes and shake my head just thinking of the many times someone has asked me that question. In our culture today, this is a fairly justifiable question to ask an 18-year-old girl. However, this 18-year-old does not have a standard response. I say, “No, I don't need one.” Most girls would say this just after a devastating breakup, and they say it bitterly because they don't want to discuss it. Neither is true for me. When I say it it's because at this point in my life I truly don't need one.
I don't see the point in having countless boyfriends before finally settling down with Mr. Right. This system of finding a mate is similar to the concept of going to a pond and kissing frog after frog, hoping that one of them will turn into a prince. I find the concept of dating foolish, and so I am going to practice courtship.
Courting simply means that you don't get into a serious relationship with the opposite sex until you are certain that this is the person you will marry. This method would be like waiting for the frogs to turn themselves into princes and then kissing the prince. Until then, going out with groups of friends is the best way to find Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Until I read the book I Kissed Dating Good-bye by Joshua Harris, I was fairly neutral on this subject because I wasn't interested in having a romantic relationship. Since reading this book, however, I am thoroughly convinced that courtship is the wisest and most godly way to find a husband or wife.
One of the biggest problems with conventional dating is the emotional roller coaster it creates. Well, perhaps a more accurate analogy would be a demolition derby. When you invest so much of your time, money, and energy into someone without a serious commitment to speak of, your heart is bound to get shattered. Many young people today get very intimate in their relationships, but what they fail to realize is that intimacy doesn't mean commitment.