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38岁,38个体会

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小编摘要:一位38岁的父亲在生日时写给他六个小孩的文章,虽然有点老生常谈外加一点唱高调,不过还是值得同学们参考一下。

38岁的体会 


我已经活了将近四十个年头。住在像巴黎这样的城市里,有很多千年不坠的建筑,让你能体会到什么叫做“一眨眼的功夫”。但已经活了这么久仍然让我感到很神奇,我以为我的人生刚开始呢。
I’ve been on this earth for nearly four decades. Being in a city like Paris, where there are buildings that measure their age by the millennia, helps put that brief blink of the eye into perspective. But still, it amazes me that I’ve been around that long — I feel like I’ve barely begun.
我通常不太重视过生日,但它也总是给我一个反思的机会。我想跟你们分享一些我的体会,就算是给初生之犊一些指引吧。
I’m not usually one to make a big deal about my birthday, but as always, it has given me an opportunity to reflect. I thought I’d share a handful of lessons I’ve learned — as a helpful guide for those just starting out.
虽然他们在人生的道路上也会跟我一样频频跌跤,我希望这篇文章能为他们开启一盏明灯。
This post is for my children, whom I miss greatly across the distance of a continent and an ocean. I hope this will shine a dim light on the streets they have to navigate ahead of them, though I know they’ll still stumble as much as I have.
1. 别让自尊阻止你道歉。为了自尊而拒绝道歉绝对划不来 - 这对你们的关系有害无益。
1. Always swallow your pride to say you’re sorry. Being too proud to apologize is never worth it — your relationship suffers for no good benefit.
2. 身外之物不仅没有用处,它们甚至有害。它们没法提升你生活的价值,却让你付出很大的代价。你不仅要花钱,还要花时间和路费去购买、然后要保养它们,还要担心受怕,给它们投保,维修等等。
2. Possessions are worse than worthless — they’re harmful. They add no value to your life, and cost you everything. Not just the money required to buy them, but the time and money spent shopping for them, maintaining them, worrying about them, insuring them, fixing them, etc.
3. 放慢脚步,别急。慢活的人生才有趣。
3. Slow down. Rushing is rarely worth it. Life is better enjoyed at a leisurely pace.
4. “目标”不是你想的那么重要。试试看一个星期漫无目的的做事,结果你会发现做了很多不错的事。而且不必管理目标,你就会抛开生活中的一些条条框框。没有目标你会更轻松一些,也更能自由的选择你原来没看到的做法。
4. Goals aren’t as important as we think. Try working without them for a week. Turns out, you can do amazing things without goals. And you don’t have to manage them, cutting out on some of the bureaucracy of your life. You’re less stressed without goals, and you’re freer to choose paths you couldn’t have foreseen without them.
5. 活在当下。我们对未来的种种忧虑和规划,以及对过去的回忆,都只是在脑中妨碍我们好好珍惜现在。抛开那些吧,专注于你此刻正在做的事情。这样一来,不管做什么心情都是平静的。
5. The moment is all there is. All our worries and plans about the future, all our replaying of things that happened in the past — it’s all in our heads, and it just distracts us from fully living right now. Let go of all that, and just focus on what you’re doing, right at this moment. In this way, any activity can be meditation.
6. 当小孩要求你的关注,永远都要满足他们。全心全意的对待你的孩子,不要觉得他们打扰了你而感到厌烦,要感谢他们提醒了你多花点时间给你所爱的人。
6. When your child asks for your attention, always grant it. Give your child your full attention, and instead of being annoyed at the interruption, be grateful for the reminder to spend time with someone you love.
7. 别欠债。包括信用卡的卡债、学生贷款、房屋贷款、个人借贷、和汽车贷款。我们觉得这些都有用处,但其实一点也不。它们产生的困扰超过带来的好处,它们会毁了生活,让我们付出远超过获得。不要花超过你赚的,先赚够了钱才去买。
7. Don’t go into debt. That includes credit card debt, student debt, home debt, personal loans, auto loans. We think they’re necessary but they’re not, at all. They cause more headaches than they’re worth, they can ruin lives, and they cost us way more than we get. Spend less than you earn, go without until you have the money.
8. 我不酷,但我不在乎。年轻时我浪费太多精力想要显酷。抛开这个想法会更棒,做自己就好。
8. I’m not cool, and I’m cool with that. I wasted a lot of energy when I was younger worrying about being cool. It’s way more fun to forget about that, and just be yourself.
9. 唯一真实的市场营销就是产品本身的精良。如果它很好,你的顾客就会替你宣传。其它的营销手段都是忽悠。
9. The only kind of marketing you need is an amazing product. If it’s good, people will spread the word for you. All other kind of marketing is disingenuous.
10. 如果你要说的话不能公诸于世,就不要用邮件或短信发出去。在这个数字时代,你不知道什么会被公开。
10. Never send an email or message that’s unfit for the eyes of the world. In this digital age, you never know what might slip into public view.
11. 人们是不能被激励的,你顶多只能用自身的行动来启发他们。那些以为可以用行为科学或管理技巧来激励别人的,都不曾好好的被这么激励过。
11. You can’t motivate people. The best you can hope for is to inspire them with your actions. People who think they can use behavioral “science” or management techniques have not spent enough time on the receiving end of either.
12. 如果你发现自己盲目从众,赶紧调头。他们也不知道自己要往哪里去。
12. If you find yourself swimming with all the other fish, go the other way. They don’t know where they’re going either.
13. 你会错过很多事物,但没关系。我们太在意要努力去做每件事,体验所有应该体验的,不错过任何重要的事情... 结果我们忘了其实我们无法做到每一件事。现实的条件注定了我们要错过绝大部分的事物。我们无法读完每一本好书,看完所有好电影,游览世上每个好城市,吃遍所有很棒的餐厅,认识每个优秀的人。但让我告诉你个秘密:如果我们不试图做到每一件事,生活会更棒。学着去享受生活中的每一片刻,你会发现人生变得无比美好。
13. You will miss a ton, but that’s OK. We’re so caught up in trying to do everything, experience all the essential things, not miss out on anything important … that we forget the simple fact that we cannot experience everything. That physical reality dictates we’ll miss most things. We can’t read all the good books, watch all the good films, go to all the best cities in the world, try all the best restaurants, meet all the great people. But the secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful.
14. 从错误中能学到最多。不要怕犯错,但尽量不要一再犯同样的错误。
14. Mistakes are the best way to learn. Don’t be afraid to make them. Try not to repeat the same ones too often.
15. 失败是成功之母。没有经历失败,我们就不知道如何成功。你应该尝试失败,而不是在恐惧之中尝试避免失败。
15. Failures are the stepping stones to success. Without failure, we’ll never learn how to succeed. So try to fail, instead of trying to avoid failure through fear.
16. 休息远比你想象来得重要。大家都太努力工作,忘了要休息,结果逐渐讨厌工作。在健身房里你常会看到,来训练马拉松比赛的人把自己累垮了,因为他们不知道要如何让紧绷的肌肉和关节复原。那些过度认真的人,其实是不了解在劳累过后,休息一下能让他们更有威力。
16. Rest is more important than you think. People work too hard, forget to rest, and then begin to hate their jobs. In fitness, you see it constantly: people training for a marathon getting burned out because they don’t know how to let their straining muscles and joints recover. People who try to do too much because they don’t know that rest is where their body gets stronger, after the stress.
17. 很少有什么快乐能比得上读一本好书,一次轻松的散步,一个热情的拥抱,或是有一个好朋友。而这些都不用花钱的。
17. There are few joys that equal a good book, a good walk, a good hug, or a good friend. All are free.
18. 锻炼不是一蹴可几的。这是一个漫长的学习过程,日积月累的成果。我已经持续锻炼了五年,还有很多要做、要学习的。但我获得的成果令人惊艳,而且过程也很棒。
18. Fitness doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long process, a learning process, something that happens in little bits over a long period. I’ve been getting fit for five years now, and I still have more to learn and do. But the progress I’ve made has been amazing, and it’s been a great journey.
19.目的地只是旅程的一小部分。我们太在意目标和未来了,以至于错过了路上的美景。如果你眼里只有最后的目标,只有达到时你才会开心。然后你又要开始担心下一个目标了。
19. The destination is just a tiny slice of the journey. We’re so worried about goals, about our future, that we miss all the great things along the way. If you’re fixated on the goal, on the end, you won’t enjoy it when you get there. You’ll be worried about the next goal, the next destination.
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2011-05-20 09:49 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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