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女性害怕金钱吗?

所属:成长励志 作者:Susan Wils 阅读:3029 次 评论:0 条 [我要评论]  [+我要收藏]

小编摘要:本文作者的实验揭示:相对于男性,女性对金钱不够贪婪,或者说女性更倾向于掩饰对金钱的贪婪。

女性害怕金钱吗?

 

 

我现在在母校乔治城大学为15位女性本科生提供小组辅导。由于我的两个儿子已分别到了14岁和13岁的年龄,几周前我带他们一起去了母校,希望他们体验一下一屋子聪明能干的年轻女性所散发出的独特魅力。
I'm mentoring a group of 15 female undergrads at Georgetown, my alma mater. Given that my sons are now 14 and 13, I brought them with me a few weeks ago so they could experience the inimitable beauty of a room full of smart, empowered young women.
在开始之前,我在教室里随机选择了几张课桌——参照教室半满时人们通常选择的位置——在上面放上了一共5张20美元钞票。我可以看到两个儿子都盯着这些钱。感到他们可能很快采取行动,我把他们请到了教室后排的座位上。
Before the session began, I placed five $20 bills on random desks throughout the classroom--based on where people typically sit when a room is half-filled. I could see my boys eyeballing the money. Sensing an imminent attack, I scooped up my boys and escorted them to their NEW seats in the back of the room.
13岁的儿子有些郁闷地问,“用什么阻止这些女孩拿这些钱呢,妈妈?”
Far from thrilled, my 13-year-old son asked, "What's to stop one of the girls from just taking the money, Mom?"
我笑了。“没什么,”我告诉他,“你们能就坐在这儿看着吗?”
I laughed, "Absolutely nothing," I told him. " Can you JUST sit here and watch?"
这似乎违背了他们的天性,但他们同意了。
It was as if they were going against nature, but they complied.
接下来十分钟,女孩们陆续到了。儿子们和我注意看着。有女孩像我儿子担心的那样,拿走了全部100美元吗?没有。
Over the next ten minutes, the girls trickled in. My sons and I watched. Did one girl scoop up the entire $100, as my son feared? Nope.
女孩们有争抢这些20美元吗?没有。
Did the girls fight over the twenties? Not exactly.
实际情况比这更糟糕——我两个儿子到现在还莫名不已。
What happened was even worse--and my sons are still dumbfounded.
一句话都没说,女孩们似乎就达成了一种默契:应该忽视这些钱。她们不仅没有拿这些20美元的钞票,而且还选择了离20美元钞票较远的座位!
Without saying a word, the girls somehow agreed that they should ignore the money. Not only did they NOT take the $20 bills. They sat anywhere but NEAR the money!
经过一番劝解,最终我成功地让几个女孩拿起了钞票。但她们立刻宣布要捐出去。为什么?因为没人想“成为一个贪婪的人”,她们说。
It took some convincing, but I did manage to get a few of the girls to pick up the bills--finally. But they immediately declared they were donating the money. Why? Because no one wanted "to be greedy," they told me.
我没有太过震惊,但决定在下周的小组讨论上再谈谈这个问题。我举起了一张20美元钞票,问谁想要它。没有一个人动。整整30秒后,一个女孩举起了手,说,“我们应该制定一条规则,决定由谁获得。”
I wasn't shocked, but I decided to revisit the issue when I met with the girls a week later. I held up a $20 bill and asked who wanted it. No one moved. A good 30 seconds later, one of the girls raised her hand and said, "We should make a rule about who gets it."
另一个女孩举起了手,说“应该归第一个到的女孩。”
Another girl raised her hand and declared, "It should go to the girl that got here first."
所有人都环顾四周,点头表示同意。
Everyone looked around, and they all nodded in agreement.
接下来一个小时,我们讨论了女孩如何看待金钱和做决定。即便是在规则没有必要的时候,这些女孩也拒绝行动,将精力集中于制定规则,以决定由谁获得。
We spent the next hour discussing how girls think about money and make decisions. Even when rules weren't necessary, the girls refused to act and instead focused their energy on creating rules about who got the money.
显然,如果有男性在这间教室里,女性不会有任何机会。
Clearly, if men had been in the room, the women wouldn't have stood a chance.
我问,“为什么?”小组推崇规则,是因为规则能建立一套标准。“然后,”一个机敏的女孩笑了,“我们可以在规则框架内,利用规则达到我们的目的。”
I asked, "Why?" The group preferred rules because rules establish a system of norms. "Then," one astute girl laughed, "we can play within established parameters and still manipulate the rules to get our way."
我的直觉反应是,“而且仍被视为好女孩?”
Instinctively, I responded, "And still be considered good girls?"
毫不迟疑地,整个小组都点头表示同意。
Without missing a beat, the group nodded in agreement.
这让你意外吗?我已经从各个角度对此进行思考,令我尴尬的是在发现不仅是我对金钱有这样的感受后,我的内心略感轻松。即便是这些聪明的年轻女性——没有成年人的经验、责任、妥协和失败等包袱——面对金钱心理也感到有些障碍。
Does any of this surprise you? I've thought about it from every angle and I'm embarrassed that a part of me feels slightly relieved that it's not just me who feels this way about money. Even these bright young women--without the grown-up baggage of experience, responsibility, compromise and failure--have a dysfunctional relationship with money.
这让我从另外一个角度感到自责。但这带来一个问题,女性如何才能在商界有出色表现?我能做些什么来帮助这些女孩——和我自己?
Which makes me feel guilty in a whole other way…argh! But this begs the question: How are women ever going to excel in business? And what can I do to help these girls--and myself?
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2011-04-25 14:05 编辑:kuaileyingyu
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